When we sense a void within ourselves, we look externally to fill it. We turn to all manner of vice, we turn to people we love, we turn to a Higher Power…
The pills, drinks, sex – those things are no remedy. They are merely distractions.
The people we love – there is only so much we can expect them to do for us.
A Higher Power – simply asking for a quick release cannot bring peace back into our hearts.
Each and every time we turn to these things we are asking “Please, make me whole again.”
But how can they?
We look outwards for support, for validation, when really we need to turn inwards.
It is inevitable that in our lives we experience pain, we experience loss. The love, support, and solace we receive from outside of ourselves is important, and likely necessary, but healing is an inside job, and it is hard, hard work.
It takes work to confront the experiences that have scarred you. It takes courage to face the guilt and shame that haunts you. It takes work to accept our daily realities. It takes courage to get up every day and simply live.
Sometimes we just need to give ourselves some credit. We have bad days, difficult days, but we choose to live through them anyway. We may not match the image of success we have in our mind’s eye, but every day that we continue to try is a triumph.
If you struggle with these things, know you are not alone. Know you are a success even if you don’t feel like it sometimes or at all. Give yourself some love because you deserve it. You have been through hell and you deserve to give yourself time and space to heal. It is hard work.